The best way to understand the spectrum is not just as autism. Some people think is just autism and some people has a lot and some a little. Me not thinks that. There is more than just autism that makes you, you. Your personality and culture and experience to. Me likes the fruit salad model by Donna Williams. It say you has autism but there’s all this other stuff you can has to that make your autism different. Like different sensory processing disorders, dyspraxia, alexithemia, face blindness, and other stuff. There’s also a bunch of comorbids you can has and sometimes people call it all autism like seizures, mild cerebral palsy, mental health things, intellectual difference, sleeping disorders, tummy problems, etc . . . The thing is it’s easy to call it all autism but it’s not. Some things you not can do much about but is good to understand what’s exactly going on so that you can help some things. For example learning that me had seizures was super important. Learning that mine friend son has celiac saved his life and helped his ‘behaviors’. Giving mine cousin meds for his mental health helped him has less behaviors, communication more, and do more good in school.
Also there’s this thing sometimes people say everyone is a little autistic. Me not thinks everyone is a little bit autistic but let’s think of it like this. If you a great great grandma who was black and everyone else was white you’d not be black but you may have a black trait. If that grandma was autistic instead of black then you may have a autistic trait. I don’t care if you call me autistic or say I have autism, I care that you respect me as a valid person. From what me understand that what people on both sides want. Me says I’m autistic because to me it’s the same as saying I’m Hispanic. Me not has Latino. And also me thinks is like how Deaf people say it, because it means a culture and or community identity. But still it comes to respect. Like the word slow. I know me am slow, my brain takes extra time to process. So if you call me that as a fact or description then it’s ok. But calling me slow to be mean or make me seem less than you is not ok.